Here are some hashtags where autistic people will be sharing and educating during Acceptance Month. Learn and amplify.
Learn about autistic burnout.
If you saw someone going through Autistic Burnout would you be able to recognise it? Would you even know what it means? Would you know what it meant for yourself if you are an Autistic person? The sad truth is that so many Autistic people, children and adults, go through this with zero comprehension of what is happening to them and with zero support from their friends and families.
If you’re a parent reading this, I can confidently say that I bet that no Professional, from diagnosis, through any support services you’re lucky enough to have been given, will have mentioned Autistic Burnout or explained what it is. If you’re an Autistic person, nobody will have told you about it either, unless you’ve engaged with the Autistic community.
Autistic Burnout is an integral part of the life of an Autistic person that affects us pretty much from the moment we’re born to the day we die, yet nobody, apart from Autistic people really seem to know about it…
My piece on autistic burnout is the one I get the most feedback on from other autistic people, including autistic students and teachers. If you learn one thing about autism for your autistic family member, student, patient, or co-worker, let it be burnout.
Don’t amplify inspiration porn.
Inspiration porn is called porn because it objectifies disabled and neurodivergent people. Our family has had to navigate well-intended inspiration porn. Here’s what it is and how to avoid it:
We are all too aware of the risk of being filmed for someone’s feel-good story (or for someone to mock, but that could be another post). We already face enormous pressure to not ask for help – to be the “supercrip” and “overcome” our disabilities – and the risk of being a viral story is yet another reason we might avoid asking for help when we need it.
Autistic people don’t support Autism Speaks for many reasons, but one of the foremost is their support for Applied Behavior Analysis. The #ActuallyAutistic community is very much against ABA, PBS, and behaviorism is general. ABA is autistic conversion therapy. It shares history and bad actors with gay conversion therapy, a widely and rightfully condemned practice.
The spread of ABA, PBS, and behaviorist ed-tech into education is of great concern. We watch the autism industry expand through public education with alarm and despair. Drop the B from PBS. Many autistic self-advocates consider such behaviorism an existential threat, myself included. Help us push back against behaviorist ed-tech at your school.
Asperger even anticipated in the 1970s that autistic adults who “valued their freedom” would object to behaviorist training, and that has turned out to be true.
Disabled, Deaf, Blind, autistic. Just say the word. The majority of those in these communities prefer identity-first language, not person-first language. Promote identity-first language, and respect language choice, be it PFL, IFL, or otherwise.
When you excise a core defining feature of a person’s identity from their living, breathing self, you sort of objectify them a bit. And you make that core defining feature optional. Because it can be safely removed, and they’re still a person. Right? Well, a person, yes – but not the sort of person they know themselves to be. And not the sort of person you can truly get to know. Because you’ve denied one of the main characteristics of their nature, out of an intention to be … compassionate? Dunno. Or maybe sensitive?
Whatever the original intention, the effect is just a bit dehumanizing. And a lot of us don’t like it.
So, if you’re into PFL – person-first language – please reconsider before you use it regarding autism. Cancer is one thing. Plaque psoriasis is another. Autism… well, that’s in a league all its own. And I wouldn’t leave that domain for all the money (or well-intended compassion) in the world.
CW: mentions of abuse, PTSD, therapy, behaviorism, suicide
Feel our urgency. We are dying young. We’re dying of PTSD induced by forced neurotypicalization. Behaviorism contributes to burnout, high suicide rates, and short lifespans for autistic people. We need allies and amplification, not more behaviorism and inspiration porn.
Mine is a tiny empire of foam, articulation, and assistive devices. Scheurmann’s kyphosis, lumbar spondylolisthesis, fibromyalgia, wildfire muscle cramps, muscle-boiling fasciculations, and peripheral neuropathy are constant companions. As are sensory overwhelm and the effects of autistic burnout.
In this guide are the things I use to conserve spoons, stay below sensory thresholds, and get through each day. These are tested in the field of my disabled and neurodivergent life. While attempting brevity, I’ll describe how each fits into my flow.
I link to Wirecutter reviews for many of these items. They show their research and list alternatives. Disclosure: Some of the links below are Wirecutter Amazon affiliate links. Wirecutter is a New York Times company.
Foam Ear Plugs
Vibes Ear Plugs
Bluetooth Sleep Masks
Sunglasses and Light-reactive Glasses
Pillows, Bedding and Bolsters
Shredded Foam Pillows
Heating Pads and Blankets
Rolling Floor Stands
Gooseneck Clip Phone Holders
Neck/Lazy Bracket Phone Holders
Portable Moon Chairs
Folding Walking Canes
The Toes Knows
Motion Control Shoes
Yankz and Lock Laces
Zipper Hoodies with Pockets
Thai Fisherman Pants
Tracking and Finding
Cutting and Opening
Utility Knives and Scissors
Music and The Golden Age of Television
The Future is Accessible, Accessibility Matters, and Ableism is Awful Apparel
I keep my sensory kit in an Arcteryx Maka 1 belly bag (a waist/fanny/lumbar pack worn front). My belly bag is always with me.
Anything I carry around this much can’t be on my back. It must be curated down to the things that are worth their mass and worn below the aching suspension of my pained back. I’m stooped enough. Waist packs worn front hit a sweet spot of retrievability, gravity budgeting, and pain management. I can bear the weight, and when I unzip the compartments, everything therein is first order retrievable.
Foam ear plugs can amplify my tinnitus. Even when they turn up the ringing, I keep them in because I sleep better through tinnitus than ambient sound.
Vibes don’t block as much sound as foam ear plugs, but their “breathability” amplifies my tinnitus less. Lately, I’ve been using the Vibes as my go to sleeping ear plug with good results. In noisier environments where I want isolation, I use the foam.
The stems serve as handles, making extraction much easier than with foam.
The snap case that comes with the Vibes is large enough to hold both the pair of Vibes and a pair of foam plugs. I like the size and affirmative closure of the snap case, though it requires two hands to open. It fits easily in the smaller compartment of my belly bag.
Nose-cancelling headphones are also part of my go-everywhere sensory kit. Since they don’t fit in the belly bag, they are usually to be found around my neck. I feel better knowing they’re there.
They’re expensive. To get their full benefits, you need an expensive iPhone. I wish this accessibility tech was more affordable, because AirPodsmakemefeel augmented, especially with the arrival of Siri Shortcuts. AirPods provide convenient sensory management and a voice interface to my cognitive net. I leave these in for hours at a time: playing music, setting timers and alarms, creating tasks in Things, and accessing the checklists that order my life. When not in my ears, they stow comfortably in the belly bag in the same pocket as the Vibes snap case (and some other stuff).
I forget I have these hanging from my ears. “Hanging” is the key to comfort. When I first got them, I was “inserting”. Ear burn came on quickly because their hard plastic was pressing against the ridge poking out along the top of my ear canal. Once I let go of the “you gotta push ‘em in there to not lose ‘em” anxiety and started hanging instead of inserting, comfort came.
Two taps to pause. Remove a bud to pause. Instant pairing. Siri Shortcuts. Disability means getting used to bad flow, flow not designed for you, flow not accessible to you. This is good flow that removes some thoughtlessness and frustration from my world.
I once heard a blind person say, “With my cane, my brain, and my trusty iPhone, I can go anywhere.” I agree with the statement completely, but it’s time to update that statement to the 2018 version:
Give me a set of AirPods to go with my iPhone, and I can go anywhere-and surreptitiously know a lot about my environment while doing so.
I’m light sensitive, so my go everywhere sensory kit also includes a sleep mask. I like ones with raised eye cups, such as the Wirecutter recommendedNidra Deep Rest. The Deep Rest rolls up compactly and fits comfortably in the large compartment of my belly bag right alongside my sunglasses.
Bluetooth Sleep Mask
Unlike the other parts of my sensory kit, I don’t carry this with me all the time. It’s usually on a bedside table, though I’ll loop it through the belt of my belly bag when I want to keep it with me, such as on a car trip.
I use the mask from Topointas recommended by Brett Terpstra. The padded nose bridge lifts the mask off the eyes. There’s not as much eyelash clearance as the Nidra Deep Rest, so your lashes might brush the mask when you blink. With eyes closed, I have the clearance I need to be comfortable.
The controls are placed on the left cheek. After laying on my left side for awhile, the pressure is noticeable, though I can still fall asleep.
The controls are certainly not the easiest to use without looking, but I got the hang of it. Since I put the mask on when I’m ready to fall asleep to a favorite playlist or to a white noise generator, I don’t interact with the controls much anyway.
These don’t provide the isolation of an over-ear or ear buds, but they do a good enough job to put me in the sensory space I want to be in.
This mask sleeps hotter than the Nidra Deep Rest.
Sunglasses and Light-reactive Glasses
My bifocals have light-reactive, photochromic lenses that protect my light-sensitive eyes without having to swap into sunglasses whenever I walk outside.
Light-reactive lenses react to UV. Car windows block UV. I always keep a pair of dedicated sunglasses in my belly bag so I can use them when in the car or indoors.
I always have a hat with me. They are an important part of my sensory management. Beanies are my go to because they’re light, packable, cover my ears, and provide gentle, even pressure to my scalp.
My lightest weight beanie is a Smartwool PhD Ultra Light. It stuffs down small enough to keep in my belly bag at all times. This hat can actually cool me down when out in the sun. It blocks some rays while wicking sweat. Sometimes, I put it on and immediately feel that evaporative cooling sensation.
It doesn’t go down over the ears as much as I’d like, though. I find myself trying to tug it down. Smartwool, a slightly longer PhD Ultra Light would suit me fine.
My go to beanie is the Smartwool PhD Light. It has the full ear coverage I like. It’s notably heavier than the Ultra Light since it is two layers instead of one, but it still packs down small enough to fit in the belly bag.
Smartwool’s The Lid comes out when I need a little more warmth. It’s too big to pack into the belly bag, so I loop it through the belt of the bag.
I like the fit and scalp pressure of Smartwool’s beanies.
Beads are stimmy goodness. I make my own stim jewelry from beads and beading wire. I keep a stim loop attached to the belly bag. I put a finger’s width of slack in the wire of the loop so that I can spin and slide the beads. It can be used one-handed while attached to the bag or can be removed for two-handed play.
I use a length of light shock cord as a zipper pull. The stretch is stimmy goodness. I ran the cord through a piece of rubbery tubing. I enjoy the texture and the tug of this simple stim.
Stimtastic is affordable stim toys, chewable jewelry and fidgets for autistic adults and teens as well as individuals with SPD, ADHD/ADD, dyspraxia . . . everyone who stims! Run by an autistic person, Stimtastic celebrates stimming as a natural part of our lives.
Any part of me that touches the world is gonna ache soon enough. Pillows improve my relationship with gravity, which pulls like a sickness.
Shredded Foam Pillows
I’ve tried various foam pillows over the years, but their heavy density and warm nature didn’t work for me. Shredded foam pillows fix these problems. Though heavier than down and poly fill, they’re not as heavy as the solid foam of old. The extra weight vs. the lighter fills gets you some moldability and conformability. I mold out space to accommodate my AirPods when side-sleeping. I can even mold out enough space for my big over-ear cans, though that’s still not quite comfortable.
This pillow is big and rather heavy. I invert mine to fluff it every few days. The size makes the process a bit of a wrestle.
This pillow doesn’t provide head support (at least not at my 5’8” height), so I supplement with the shredded foam stuffed sham mentioned earlier. I made it the thickness I need to fill the gap between my head and the wall. Pillows that are stuffed even just a little bit too thick pitch my head forward uncomfortably.
Of the travel/neck pillows I’ve tried, only the Travelrest Ultimate Memory Foam Travel Pillow suits my needs because it removes the thickness at the back of the pillow so that my head doesn’t pitch forward. Pillows that don’t reduce thickness behind the head are non-starters.
Like so many travel pillows, the Travelrest presses against my AirPods and over-ear cans. Someday, I’ll find a pillow that removes the rear thickness, contours around headphones, and still supports my head when it’s lolling to the side.
I use neck pillows in the car and also, at times, while working from bed. There are days when my neck gets tired of keeping my head on.
The Company Store Down-Free Fill Body Pillow is my cuddly alignment companion. I’m a dedicated side sleeper even though becoming a back sleeper would ease some pain. A full length body pillow reduces distracting shoulder and arm pressure and aligns my hips and knees.
Side-sleepers may find it comfortable to hug a body pillow, reducing pressure on the bottom shoulder and arm. It can also be comfortable to tuck the pillow between the knees, preventing the pelvis from tilting forward or backward: “If you sleep on your side without a pillow between your legs, the muscle fibers can get overstretched,” Ryan told us. Keeping the ankles separated and parallel during the night can also be comfortable, Ryan said, especially for people who experience swelling.
A 72”, this pillow is longer than I am tall. I like that. It’s a feature The Company Store pillow has over others, as noted in the WireCutter review. I considered going with a shredded foam body pillow since it works for me in other applications, but decided to go with a lighter fill given the long length. I don’t regret it. The TCS body pillow has the right amount of loft, poof, and rebound.
The two coccyx pillows I see most often recommended are the ComfiLife and the Aylio.
Heating Pads and Blankets
I have too much kyphosis (curvature) in my spine. The result is constantly aching back muscles stretched like cables supporting a poorly designed suspension bridge. I pretty much live on a heating pad to ease the deep, abiding ache. Check out the Wirecutter recommendations for heating pads and electric blankets. I use their top recommendation, the PureRelief XL – King Size Heating Pad, daily.
I can’t hold a phone, tablet, or e-reader for long without hand, wrist, elbow, shoulder, and neck pain. I can’t use a laptop unless it’s positioned just right. So, I articulate all the things. I spend a lot of time in the supine; articulated tablet, laptop, and e-reader holders are a must.
Rolling Floor Stands
We have three LEVO Deluxe iPad Floor Stands that have survived years of continuous abuse. They are tough and stable. The kids use the arms as stim toys for fidgeting feet and even ride them around the house like scooters. These stands have held up through all of our indelicate attentions.
I glued large rare earth magnets (salvaged from some aquarium equipment) to their faces. I like magnetic phone attachment.
I roll these up next to the bed or couch whenever I’m spending time on my phone or e-reader. Not using them is to invite pain.
I clamp an Ergotron LX Tall Pole LCD Arm to my bed frame. It is fitted with an extension arm and a laptop tray. This provides the articulation I need to find a comfortable repose whether watching TV or sitting up against my reading pillow and typing. The tall pole provides mattress clearance, but if you have a super-thick mattress you might have to get creative with clamping.
I love this arm. It hovers my laptop over me in bed, making work possible. I’m glad I got the extra extension arm. It adds needed height to clear me in bed and extends its range to the width of the bed. I strap a UE ROLL 2 to the extension arm. This puts it at the prefect height and orientation to send sound up along my reclined body.
Gooseneck phone holders aren’t so great for actually using your phone while mounted. They jiggle too much. However, when watching a movie in a hotel room where I don’t have my floor stand, they save a lot of pain. I clip one to my bedside table and throw it in a tote bag when I travel.
As with the floor stands, I glued a magnet to my holder. I got a clamp style holder, but the jaws are quite deep enough for my iPhone 7+ in a wallet case stuffed with cards. Actually, I glued a magnet to a small metal rolling tray that happens to fit the jaws of my holder. Holder clamps tray, magnet on tray hold phone. Magnetic versions aren’t as common, but I should try one.
Neck/Lazy Bracket Phone Holders
I’m always looking for ways to save pain while using my phone. Often, neither focal range on my bifocals is comfortable for reading because neck and shoulder pain limit the positions in which I can hold a phone. In such moments, I take off my glasses and put my phone on a GoWith [Magnetic Tablet & Cell Phone Holder worn around my neck. This way, I can position my phone exactly where I need it to accommodate both my eyes and my neck.
I usually use this when sitting outside reading. I’ll sometimes walk around with it on while running through household checklists.
If you love your spoonie to the tune of 800 – 2000 bucks, I can recommend the Steelcase Leap, the Steelcase Think, and Soma Ergonomics chairs. We’ve had all three around the house for several years, and they are well-built survivors. The Leap is approaching twenty years old and still holding up comfortably.
Moon/saucer chairs certainly aren’t for everyone, but I take a big CORE padded moon chair or KingCamp Sofa moon chair with me to outdoor events. I use them at home too for lounging outside. I like the room big saucers provide, and they support my curved back more comfortably than upright chairs.
I couldn’t cook or wash dishes without standing mats in the kitchen. These extend my functional time and reduce painful bouts of sciatica, paresthesia, and fasciculations. I use the Imprint flat matsuggested here.
I use a few mobility devices to extend my range and stay below thresholds.
Folding Walking Canes
My Switch Sticks folding walking cane has been a reliable companion. Adjustable and durable, this fits and hasn’t let me down. They come in many colors and patterns and are tote bag stuffable.
With a Flipstick, I always have a seat with me. I put a padded bicycle seat on mine and cut a hole through it to provide access to the button that locks and unlocks the seat.
When I’m waiting in a chair in a doctor’s office, I lean forward and support my head on the Flipstick’s seat. My kyphosis pitches me forward. With the Flipstick, I can go with my tendency to lean and be supported. I use it in this mode more often than I use it as a seat.
This seat has saved me when caught in unexpectedly long queues without a rollator or wheelchair. It’s not exactly comfortable, but when my legs are ready to buckle, I’m glad I have it. When sitting on this, form a tripod with your legs and the stick.
There is a little slop in the seat mechanism and the collapsible sections. The Switch Stick has a tighter fit and doesn’t have a rattly flip seat. If you can’t stand any rattle or slop in your collapsible canes, the Flipstick might be a bad fit.
My Drive Medical rollator has also been reliable. It assists me on longer bouts of walking and avoids the often fruitless search for seating. I sometimes wish I had a side-folding rollator for navigating narrow doorways, but those are more expensive, and the seat hinges down the middle, which bothers some.
I like to sit outside, even as the temperature drops. Baffin Base Camp booties are sleeping bags for my feet that keep my feet warm through a full winter season of porch sitting. They’re great in the house too.
Custom orthotics are one of the best investments I ever made. I’m a flat-footed over pronator who’s had a lifetime of grief with my feet, including having my feet forcibly shaped by hard plastic orthotics as a kid.
The orthotics of today aren’t those wretched things I had as a kid. For too long, that childhood experience prevented me from giving orthotics another go. I don’t walk more than 20 steps without the 3/4 length orthotics I have now. Without them, even a brief walk of just one minute induces foot pain.
My podiatrist used a plaster cast method, and I’ve been very happy with the results. A portable cast of your foot transforms every shoe.
If you want to change the life of someone with foot issues, spring $500 for custom orthotics.
Motion Control Shoes
My go to motion control shoe is the Brooks Beast. These are expensive shoes, so expensive that I wear them years longer than I should. Funding fresh motion control kicks for the over pronator in your life is a nice move.
Yankz and Lock Laces
Our dyspraxic family uses Lock Laces to avoid knot tying. Yankz is a similar brand. I’ve never owned Yankz, but I see both them and Lock Laces recommended in the #ActuallyAutistic community. The main difference seems to be the tensioning clip in the Yankz. I don’t need that part.
There isn’t much selection in accessible shoes, making Nike’s Flyease all the more appreciated. Every shoe company should have an accessibility line. We buy Flyease.
Clothing and texture preferences are very personal. Here’s what’s compatible with me and my sensory needs.
Zipper Hoodies with Pockets
I like soft cotton and micro fleece hoodies with zipper fronts, ample hoods, and plenty of pockets. I live in hoodies. I recede into their comforts. They provide sensory insulation.
I have limited shoulder flexibility and cramp readily when trying to shimmy out of long sleeve pullovers. All of my outerwear has a means of escape, preferably a YKK zipper.
Thai Fisherman Pants
Inexpensive, comfortable, and capable of being both your fat pants and your skinny pants, Thai Fisherman Pants are what I wear pretty much all the time. I get mine from Amonchai.
Thai fisherman pants are secured with a knot. Knot tying isn’t accessible to everyone. I still have enough hand dexterity to tie bow knots, so I haven’t had to work around the knot requirements of fisherman pants.
BTW, if you tie shoelaces using the bunny ear method, you might be tying Granny Knots instead of more secure Reef Knots. I did this for a long time before habituating myself to switch my starting knot from left over right to right over left.
Of the three common knotting techniques, the Two Loop Shoelace Knot (or “Bunny Ears” method) is probably the one that is most often tied incorrectly. The technique consists of one knot tied with loose ends followed by a second knot tied with loops. People naturally tie both stages exactly the same way, resulting in a “Granny Knot”. This has given it a bad reputation as an inferior knot – whereas it’s actually quite secure if tied correctly.
…if you currently tie your starting knot: “Left end over Right end & through”, simply change it to: “Right end over Left end & through” – or vice versa.
Medications and chronic pain can increase distractibility and impact cognition. I attach Tile trackers to keys, canes, headphones, purses, and bags. I attach one to the key leash of the belly bag. Searching for necessary coping tools while grimacing with pain is frustrating and dispiriting. Tile trackers provide a comforting cognitive net.
Double pressing the button on the Tiles rings your phone. With a Tile on my belly bag (as well as on my headphones and canes), I’m always able to summon my phone from its hiding places in the depths of couches and bedding.
They have to be replaced each year, which gets expensive. Tile recently released a Pro Tile with a replaceable battery. Next time I have to replace one, I’ll try a Pro.
Tiles are too big to put on eyeglasses. Luckily, there’s a superior eyeglass locating technology: eyeglass chains. Put chains on your glasses and never wonder where they’re at again.
As I became more presbyopic, I found myself losing track of my glasses because I’d take them off to read and see up close. Putting my eyeglasses on a chain has saved me a lot of frustrated searching.
A good utility knife and a good pair of scissors assist package opening chores and household cutting. In our dyspraxic, repetitive-strain-wracked household, we cut instead of pull, rip, and tear. The Wirecutter recommendations for utility knife and kitchen scissors have served us well.
I picked the Wellmax WM99024S Grocery Utility Shopping Cart from the competition based on Amazon reviews. I haven’t had cause to regret the choice. When driving to out of town hospitals and staying in hotels, the cart handles schlepping our coping array to and from the car. At home, we use it for bringing in groceries from the car.
Music helps manage sensory overwhelm and is an unguent for souls. Spotify and Apple Music subscriptions cover every mood.
Here, enjoy a minimalist chill. The repetitive structures of minimalist compositions are part of my sensory management.
The Future is Accessible, Accessibility Matters, and Ableism is Awful Apparel
Support disabled people, and spread the message of accessibility. Accessibility Matters and The Future is Accessible apparel are not always available (the campaigns run for limited time windows), but grab something for the spoonie in your life when they are. If the campaigns currently aren’t open, hit the “I Would Buy This!” button to signal interest in the next campaign.
Masturbation reminds you that your body is about more than pain. Get some toys. The Magic Wand is a good general purpose massager and sensory stimulator. Again, I’ll rely on Wirecutter recommendations since they show their work and offer alternatives.
A #ChronicHolidays guide doesn’t feel complete without some chronic. Medical marijuana is a life saver for many. It’s an ally to disability and neurodivergence. It eases chronic pain, aids sleep, reduces sensory overwhelm, and heads off overwhelm and PTSD-induced meltdown. I prefer vaporizing hash oil concentrates, especially at bed time, but combusting a joint while amidst nature appeals to a Promethean and free wildling part of my nature. Here are suggestions for grinders, rolling supplies, dry herb vaporizers, and concentrate vaporizers.
Dry Herb Grinder
I currently use a large Space Case Grinder Sifter. Larger diameter cases are easier on my hands and wrists. The threads on this case are fine and need to be kept clean. 99% isopropyl helps with that and all medical marijuana related cleaning needs. I’d prefer something with coarser, less-cloggable threads, but as long as I keep the threads clean I can get by. The Wirecutter has grinder recommendations, but I haven’t tried any of them.
Dry Herb Vaporizers
I’ve tried several dry herb vaporizers over the years. Most did not stay in my rotation long. The AirVape X bucks that trend. It has a minimal air path, which means less cleaning. The large rim funnels down into the oven, which means less spilling of precious medicine.
I use RAW organic hemp rolling papers and tips. I always roll with rolling tips (also called crutches or roaches). They make hand rolling easier and provide a more comfortable burn as you get to the end of your number. You won’t have incendiary hippie grenades hitting the back of your throat if you z-fold your rolling tip. If you don’t have any rolling supplies, kits that include a rolling tray, rolling machine, rolling paper, rolling tips, and a doob tube are convenient.
Cannabis is a botanical. That’s means the possibility of allergies, especially when combusting dried flower. If you’re sensitive to botanicals, concentrates like butane hash oil (BHO) will better suit you. BHO uses butane as a solvent. Most of it is purged off, but if you’re sensitive to butane try a solvent-less concentrate like rosin.
I prefer inhaling my meds. Vapor is the most bio-available delivery method. Inhaled vapor gives instant relief and dosing feedback since it goes straight to the brain.
For concentrate vapes, I’ve had good luck with Linx products. I’m currently using the Linx Ares Honey Straw. It’s straw design means there are more surfaces in the air path, which means more cleaning. I clean it with an alcohol wipe every time I recharge and haven’t had any problems with it so far. When kept clean, straw and nectar collector designs provide the best flavor and cleanest hits. If you enjoy terpenes and revel in the taste of living green, try a straw design. With straws, you can dab straight from wax paper and silicone or glass containers. They’re not as discrete or handy for vaping on-the-go as pens though. The setup I like is a pen for continuous micro-dosing during the day and a straw or e-rig for heavier dosing at night.
I’ve used and enjoyed the Dr. Dabber Aurora. The magnetic sections are wrist friendly, but I found that the mouthpiece would come loose in my pocket. I fixed that with a piece of gaffer tape. Dr. Dabber has responsive customer service and stood by their product when I broke the ceramic pin on my Boost e-Rig.
Something to keep in mind with concentrate vaporizers is that you will have to regularly replace the atomizers (or heating tips for straw style devices). They get gunked up with resin over time and must be replaced. Factor the price of atomizers/tips and 99% isopropyl alcohol into the total ownership cost.
Here’s a survey of popular vape pens.
With all of these devices, you have to keep them clean, clean, clean. Always have 99% isopropyl handy. Amazon offers bottles by the case.
Turn that silicone water pipe into a dab rig with a quartz banger. I’ve used domed and domeless nails of all sorts. My preference is the quartz banger. They’re easy to use and provide a clean hit.
A water pipe with a quartz banger is an enjoyable way to apply a bed time dose.
A Good Torch
I’ve gone through a lot of torches. The only one to last more than 6 months is the Blazer Big Shot. Mine still strikes after almost 6 years of regular use.
There are a lot of hemp-derived CBD (cannabidiol) products on the market right now. They are currently legal in all 50 states in the US. There are a lot of rip offs out there, so watch out.
CBD is a cozy blanket of calm. I don’t find the hemp-derived CBD concentrates to be as effective as marijuana derived concentrates, but they still help.
In my experience, CBD works better in concert with THC. 1:1 CBD:THC products suit me nicely. If you don’t have access to medical marijuana derived CBD, the hemp stuff will certainly suffice. CBD can help reduce dependence on opioids. If you experience opioid constipation, CBD could be a life changer.
CBD concentrates comes in many forms. Crystals are flexible and multi-use. You can sprinkle them on food, swirl them in drinks, cook with them, and even dab them with dab rigs, vapes, and straws.
Vape cartridge’s screw onto any vape pen with 510 threads. Cartridges are great for micro-dosing throughout the day.
I’m still auditioning hemp-derived CBD makers. Here in the Austin Texas area we have Ziggy’s Naturals.
Medical Marijuana Accessibility
It’s rare that I see reviews address the accessibility of devices. Every vaporizer I’ve used requires 5 quick button clicks to turn them on and off. This interaction is not so accessible. Grinders often have fine threads that are difficult to line up and clog quickly. Companies need to be more attentive to disability. I long for someone to take disability and accessibility seriously in their design, marketing, packaging, and customer support. Cannabis is medicine, after all.
Healthcare professionals do not generally live the reality of disability. Their "expertise" is limited to what they encounter. The real expertise in living with disability comes from disabled individuals. https://t.co/ph1Vl0HoVC
This is one of the heartbreaks about being autistic. We tend to love certainty and support science. Yet, we constantly face scientific and medical professionals whose credentials we want to trust but whose information has been greatly misinformed. It’s a systemic problem.
That's the problem… The lack of education and lack of standards for education mean patients pay the price because staff, nurses, doctors, and even some of their lawyers don't know HIPAA.#HIPAA education needs a huge overhaul. https://t.co/YHvJy2SHI2
"I would like to see more of this #autistic-informed policy integrated into# autism education for medical professionals, for matters like accommodations during patient-professional interactions." #IACC#autism#healthcare 3/
For YEARS I came to doctors for help and they responded like this:
-Just put your feet up -What do you want ME to do about it? -There is nothing wrong with you. -It might be your depression -No, you don't have that. -😂😂😂 -Your symptoms are not possible.#DoctorsAreDickheads
This is not a "few bad apples" problem. There is a systematic power dynamic that exists between disabled people and doctors because unlike with nondisabled people you are (unfairly) our gatekeepers to the world
Need accommodations for school: go to the doctor Need them for work: Go to the doctor again Need to apply for disability supports: back to the doctor you go Need an accessible parking pass: go to the doctor Apply for benefits: Go to the doctor
I do think medicine needs a Catholic Church-style reckoning. I know that might sound like an odd analogy but when you stop talking about bad apples and realize the problem is fundamental and systemic, that it destroys lives… #DoctorsAreDickheads#medtwitter
If you're a doctor and you're deeply offended by the #DoctorsAreDickheads hashtag: good. You should be. I'm living with chronic and acute pain due to genetic Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome that went undiagnosed for over 20 years. Go ask your colleagues why they can't diagnose EDS
And I fear many doctors have no idea how dramatically they fail many of their patients. They have too many defenses. Fundamentally, every #DoctorsAreDickheads story is a story of self-defense: I would rather risk your life than reveal my ignorance. #medtwitter
Despite increased spending on mental health treatment, mental illness disability and suicide rates have skyrocketed. “Perhaps more disturbingly,” notes clinical psychologist Noël Hunter, “recent evidence has demonstrated that as contact with psychiatric intervention increases, so too does completed suicide, suggesting the possibility that the current mental health system may be creating the very problems it purports to aid.” In Hunter’s recently published Trauma and Madness in Mental Health Services (Palgrave Macmillan, 2018), she asks, “Are we continuing to funnel money into a fundamentally broken system?”
Far fewer on the Left recognize that the psychiatric- industrial complex (which includes the American Psychiatric Association and its Big Pharma financial partners) is also devoted only to its own preservation and expansion, thus routinely exacerbating emotional suffering-this despite many individual practitioners who want to help their patients.
Hunter is a rare psychologist. She not only has extensive knowledge of the empirical research, but she herself was once diagnosed with serious mental illness, and she takes very seriously the insights of “experts by experience”-recovered ex-patients-who Hunter quotes throughout her book. Both objective and subjective sources make clear to Hunter that the essential cause for what is called serious mental illness is not some kind of biochemical or genetic defect but some kind of trauma, and that the essential remedy is healing from trauma. For critical thinkers who are not mental health professionals, Hunter’s assertions in Trauma and Madness in Mental Health Services may sound like simple common sense, but it is sense that is not common in the mental health profession.
In a scientific sense, terms like “schizophrenia” are completely meaningless-wastebaskets to toss people who are behaving in ways that appear bizarre to doctors. Often what causes people acting in unusual ways to become chronically dysfunctional are their doctors’ problematic reactions and “treatments.” In other words, it is common for the source of chronic dysfunction to be physician-induced (iatrogenic) trauma.
In the real world of psychiatric diagnoses, probably the most important criteria for whether you are diagnosed with schizophrenia or dissociative identify disorder (DID) is how much your doctor likes you, and Hunter was likable enough to get a DID diagnosis. For reasons of dogma, not science, trauma is taken seriously for DID but not for schizophrenia (in which one is simply seen as defective). So, Hunter considers herself relatively lucky, and one senses her “survival guilt.”
Professionals often waste their limited time obsessing over a diagnostic process that is scientifically invalid and unreliable. “Rather,” Hunter concludes, “what is more important is to take an individualized, collaborative, trauma-informed approach that is attuned to individual needs without making assumptions and considering the person’s subjective experiences as real and something to be respected.” It’s important, Hunter concludes, to help people find meaning and value in the adaptive nature of their atypical experiences.
Carlin was a far better therapist for critical thinkers than are the vast majority of my mental health professional colleagues. Shaming hopelessness as some kind of character flaw or, worse, psychopathologizing it as a symptom of mental illness only adds insult to injury. Hope missionaries ignore the reality that pathologizing hopelessness does not make critical thinkers more hopeful, only more annoyed.
I know many mental health professionals who espouse hope but who are broken and compliant with any and all authorities. In contrast, I know anti-authoritarians who, like Carlin, express hopelessness but who are unbroken and resist illegitimate authorities. Carlin modeled a self-confident rebellion against authoritarianism and bullshit, and he provided the kind of humor that energizes resistance.
I don’t know the exact moment when I became hopeless about my mental health profession, but my experience has been that one can be embarrassed by one’s profession for only so long before that embarrassment turns into hopelessness.
The symptoms of ODD include often argues with adults and often refuses to comply with authorities’ requests or rules. At that time, I was in graduate school for clinical psychology and already somewhat embarrassed by the pseudoscientific disease inventions of my future profession; and throwing rebellious young people under the diagnostic bus with this new ODD label exacerbated my embarrassment.
My embarrassment transformed into hopelessness as it became routine to prescribe tranquilizing antipsychotic drugs to ODD kids; to diagnose kids with mental disorders merely for blowing off school while their entire family was falling apart; and to prescribe Ritalin, Vyvanse, Adderall, and other amphetamines to six-year-olds who had become inattentive as their parents were engaged in a nasty divorce.
Achieving hopelessness about my profession had great benefits. It liberated me from wasting my time with authoritarian mental health professionals in efforts at reform; and it energized me to care solely about anti-authoritarians who already had their doubts about my profession and sought validation from someone within it. Embracing my hopelessness about my profession made me whole and revitalized me.
Witnessing a mental health profession that is fast on its way to achieving complete ignorance about the nature of human beings would simply have validated Carlin’s general hopelessness.
Rather, the entirety of the mental health field and the paradigm under which it operates is a modern-day religion rife with all the familiar problems and benefits that exist in any religion. Most importantly, however, there is hope if people are willing to move beyond what society tells us we “must” do. People have been healing from great pain for 200,000 years—the mental health professions have existed for less than 200. While there are some things we have learned, we need to stop trying to re-invent the wheel. People need love, support, community, to be heard, to be valued, to be validated, to have purpose, to have health and housing, to have nutrition both physically and emotionally—it is not rocket science and doesn’t become such just because we keep saying that it is.
People who enter services are frequently society’s most vulnerable-people who have experienced extensive trauma, adversity, abuse, and oppression throughout their lives. At the same time, I struggle with the word “trauma” because it signifies some huge, overt event that needs to pass some arbitrary line of “bad enough” to count. I prefer the terms “stress” and “adversity.” In the book, I speak to the problem of language and how this insinuates differences that are not there, judgments, and assumptions that are untrue. Our brains and bodies don’t know the difference between “trauma” and “adversity”-a stressed fight/flight state is the same regardless of what words you use to describe the external environment. I’m tired of people saying “nothing bad ever happened to me” because they did not experience “trauma.” People suffer, and when they do, it’s for a reason.
If patients willingly adopt the role of defectiveness, then how is the doctor doing anything harmful or wrong? People who grew up as the scapegoat, who believe they are dirty or defective or bad, who are ashamed of their existence or believe they should be someone they are not, who have led their entire lives being marginalized and discriminated against in society-these are the people who most frequently enter mental health services. They are also those most readily vulnerable to accepting these messages under the guise of treatment and care. It is not until people are willing to start to consider that, in fact, they are not defective in the least, rather, that they are just flawed and unique human beings adapting to incredible pain that they can start to actually believe in themselves enough to heal.
Of course, there is simply the existential issue of mental health professionals that may be unbearable for them to face: If I am not fixing a distinct and identifiable problem, what, then, is my purpose? If the real healing power I have is something that any human being could ostensibly provide, if willing, why did I spend all those years in school and possibly hundreds of thousands of dollars? If these are not specific diseases related to specific biochemical or genetic flaws, why have I specialized-and who doesn’t like feeling special? And, worse, if I am not addressing people with genetic illnesses and biochemical problems, what, really, am I doing when all I have to offer are drugs and technological interventions?
This problem is not unique to mental health professionals. Medical doctors are caught in a similar dilemma when it comes to obesity, heart disease, diabetes, chronic inflammation, and many autoimmune diseases, even cancer. What do these doctors do when they realize that these problems are almost entirely due to an industrialized diet largely based on corporate interests-the sugar industry, soy bean manufacturers, Monsanto-and that if people just ate the way humans are designed to eat, these problems mostly would not exist? And, of course, these issues are entirely intertwined with mental health problems! If these are not specific diseases related to specific biochemical or genetic flaws, why have I specialized? If these problems are not really genetic illnesses and biochemically-based problems, what, really, am I doing when all I have to offer are drugs and technological interventions?
A black man spends his life being marginalized and aggressed, dismissed because of his fear and pain-should he enter the system, he is no longer “less-than” because of his blackness, now he’s marginalized and dismissed as “schizophrenic.” A sexually-abused young woman who was told she “wanted it,” was blamed, and was never given the opportunity to be angry enters the system-she now is “borderline” and once again blamed for being too sexualized, for causing staff to behave in shameful ways, and condemned for her anger, even when it is taken out on herself.
Perhaps more than any other, the most common enactment is that associated with the individual who grew up with a narcissistic parent in constant need of adulation, intolerant of discomfort or self-reflection, and who was a master in the art of gaslighting.
We live in a society that values stoicism, complete control over one’s behaviors, lack of emotional expression, “politeness” at the expense of authenticity-I love New York!-and an eerie Stepford Wife-like ideal of conformity. Mental health professionals often are selected for their ability to represent these values. Those troublemakers who tell the truth, are spontaneous(otherwise called “impulsive”), who laugh or find humor in the darkness(or “inappropriate affect”), who refuse to conform(or my favorite, “oppositional”) are ostracized and pathologized for the threat they pose to propriety. They generally don’t make it through the training process. I know I almost didn’t. It is the Anglo-Saxon way. It also is what makes most of us completely miserable.
Anti-authoritarian patients should be especially concerned with psychiatrists and psychologists—even more so than with other doctors. While an authoritarian cardiothoracic surgeon may be an abusive jerk for a nursing staff, that surgeon can still effectively perform a necessary artery bypass for an anti-authoritarian patient. However, authoritarian psychiatrists and psychologists will always do damage to their anti-authoritarian patients.
Psychiatrists and psychologists are often unaware of the magnitude of their obedience, and so the anti-authoritarianism of their patients can create enormous anxiety and even shame for them with regard to their own excessive compliance. This anxiety and shame can fuel their psychopathologizing of any noncompliance that creates significant tension. Such tension includes an anti-authoritarian patient’s incensed reaction to illegitimate authority.
Anti-authoritarian helpers—far more commonly found in peer support—understand angry reactions to illegitimate authority, empathize with the pain fueling those reactions, and genuinely care about that pain. Having one’s behavior understood and pain cared about opens one up to dialogue as to how best to deal with one’s pain. Because anti-authoritarian mental health professionals are rare, angry anti-authoritarian patients will likely be “treated” by an authority who creates even more pain, which results in more self-destructiveness and violence.
It is certainly no accident that anti-authoritarian psychiatrists and psychologists are rare. Mainstream psychiatry and psychology meet the needs of the ruling power structure by pathologizing anger and depoliticizing malaise so as to maintain the status quo. In contrast, anti-authoritarians model and validate resisting illegitimate authority, and so anti-authoritarian professionals—be they teachers, clergy, psychiatrists, or psychologists—are not viewed kindly by the ruling power structure.
We have a medical community that’s found a sickness for every single human difference. DSM keeps growing every single year with new ways to be defective, with new ways to be lessened.
The myth of normal is what’s broken, and the identity that, if you don’t fit it, that you are less than, that’s what’s broken. We need to reframe what we problematize, not bodies, not difference, but this pervasive imperative to be normal.
Disability industrial complex is all about what people can’t do. We spend most of our time trying to fix what they can’t do. When all we do is fix people the message we give to them is that they are broken.
We have created a system that has you submit yourself, or your child, to patient hood to access the right to learn differently. The right to learn differently should be a universal human right that’s not mediated by a diagnosis.
I discuss what patients & providers need to know about common #HIPAA issues including: -Getting all your records -Taking forever to get your records -Radiology images -Getting records the way you asked for -Insisting a patient pick up records in person 1/https://t.co/SwFXew4jAF
This is a long read, so I recommend skipping to portions that may be of interest to you. But I highly recommend that all providers and their staff read this as part of their training. So many headaches can be avoided if everyone understands these laws. 4/https://t.co/SwFXew4jAF
I do not use patient portals for messages. Getting providers to use email though is like pulling teeth. They’ve all been sold the line by medical records companies that portals are the only “secure” way to send messages. And while some portals may have encryption to help with privacy and security, some personal email accounts also have a feature to encrypt (the provider’s email should already be encrypted or they are running dangerously close to more HIPAA problems). You can read the letter I give my doctors on using email here.
Both formal research, and autistic people’s own reports, clearly show that autistic health concerns-including mental health issues-are too often dismissed or misunderstood, and that autistic people are also more likely than the general population to have co-occurring health conditions.
I would like to see more of this autistic-informed policy integrated into autism education for medical professionals, for matters like accommodations during patient-professional interactions. We need more medical personnel to understand why autistic people-even those technically capable of holding a conversation-can have a debilitating fear of needles, may have difficulty with sensory-intensive procedures like MRIs or EEGs, may have trouble answering questions or self-reporting accurately due to processing, alexithymia, or interception issues, and may have meltdowns when overwhelmed. We must develop strategies for ensuring those autistic individuals are accommodated, so they can receive the care they deserve without being written off as “difficult.”
I would like to see more medical professional awareness about the sensory needs of autistic people both in general, and in medical environments. When my son was recently in the ER at Stanford University, he was given access to a lovely sensory “Imagination Station,” and in addition the flickering fluorescent lights in his room were turned off. Many autistic adults who heard about my son’s experience reported that they too would like access to these kinds of sensory accommodations, but such options, even when available, are usually reserved for children.
I would like to see more outreach to medical schools and other training programs about the need for more neurologists, behavioral psychiatrists, developmental pediatricians, and registered dietitians both in general, and who understand autism specifically. These scarcity of these specialists makes accessing health care even more difficult for autistic kids and adults.
I would like to see investment in “health passports,” like those developed by the UK’s National Autistic Society, to improve autistic people’s hospital and medical experiences. I would like to see encouragement to adopt and support models like the autism and healthcare toolkits and resources developed byAASPIREandUCSF’s Office of Developmental Primary Care, in delineating compassionate, respectful, and useful best practices for patients with developmental disabilities.
I would like to see all autistic people, including those with intellectual disabilities, treated with more respect by medical professionals. Autistic people must to be able to trust the professionals taking care of them if they are to tolerate anxiety-provoking medical environments-yet too often autistic people are not even addressed during in-person conversations about their own health, or they are spoken in a manner more appropriate for speaking to A Very Good Dog (as happened to my son while getting his flu shot just this week). In worst-case scenarios, dismissive attitudes can lead to tragedy, as with the recent death of 18-year-old Oliver McGowan. These attitudes must change, because my son’s life and those of his autistic community members are valuable, and should be treated that way.
Finally, I would like to see recognition that health care access gaps are even more pronounced for autistic kids and adults who aren’t male, autistic people of low socioeconomic status, and autistic people of color, due to well-documented barriers including accessing formal diagnosis, and thus receiving proper care and accommodations. We need investment in easy-read and multilingual autism and health care information. Ideally, we also need investment in “community ambassadors” who can translate and/or advocate for people who may have multiple barriers to resources, and thus to effective self- or family advocacy.
This is the story about a doctor and nurse I once had and how they “got it.”
“Getting it” isn’t necessarily something that you can define. It’s ineffable. It’s more of a feeling than a specific action. For me, it’s a connection that runs deeper than the diagnosis, the medical terminology, the treatments proposed. It’s a sense of being listened to and really heard. It’s feeling of being truly cared for. It’s a sense of empathy or at least a willingness to immerse oneself in my world as a patient, to feel and see what I face. When I think of my doctor and nurse who “got it”, I remember the sense of safety and calm they offered me and knowing that I would be okay. To each patient surely it may mean something different. But for me “getting it” gives me the ability as a patient to breathe, and perchance even to live.
Access intimacy is that elusive, hard to describe feeling when someone else “gets” your access needs. The kind of eerie comfort that your disabled self feels with someone on a purely access level. Sometimes it can happen with complete strangers, disabled or not, or sometimes it can be built over years. It could also be the way your body relaxes and opens up with someone when all your access needs are being met. It is not dependent on someone having a political understanding of disability, ableism or access. Some of the people I have experienced the deepest access intimacy with (especially able bodied people) have had no education or exposure to a political understanding of disability.
Access intimacy is also the intimacy I feel with many other disabled and sick people who have an automatic understanding of access needs out of our shared similar lived experience of the many different ways ableism manifests in our lives. Together, we share a kind of access intimacy that is ground-level, with no need for explanations. Instantly, we can hold the weight, emotion, logistics, isolation, trauma, fear, anxiety and pain of access. I don’t have to justify and we are able to start from a place of steel vulnerability. It doesn’t mean that our access looks the same, or that we even know what each other’s access needs are. It has taken the form of long talks into the night upon our first meeting; knowing glances shared across a room or in a group of able bodied people; or the feeling of instant familiarity to be able to ask for help or support.