“What CAN be misunderstood WILL be misunderstood”

It feels good to be seen. These tweets and this piece resonate with my schooling and my career.

Autistic social motivation is deeply rooted in the desire to share knowledge and in the desire to learn, and this has big implications for the protocols that are used in autistic communication.

From an autistic perspective the extreme energy input required for any reasonably successful communication leads to the development of a number of complementary coping strategies for various situations.

I have developed a strong preference for written communication, which is a very effective strategy for avoiding the need for linguistic autistic masking.

Source: What CAN be misunderstood WILL be misunderstood – Autistic Collaboration

Related,

Bring the backchannel forward. Written communication is the great social equalizer.

Picking Floods, Picking Senses

From a good piece on autism myths and autistic culture:

Autistic people may not give eye contact.  They can either hear, or look, but not both. It is not a sign of guilt or unwillingness to engage.

Source: Ann’s Autism Blog: Safeguarding and Church – An Informal Guide

I touch on picking between senses in these pieces:

I sometimes close my eyes to better parse the speech coming at me. I swim in sensory overwhelm. I must pick a firehose. Eyes front preserves the illusion of compliance, so I’ll stop listening.

Source: CHAMPS and the Compliance Classroom – Ryan Boren

In conversation, I listen better when not managing the sensory flood that comes with eye contact. I often close my eyes to shut out the social and sensory distractions–the relentless barrage of cues and stimulus–and focus on the words being spoken.

Source: Eye Contact and Neurodiversity – Ryan Boren

Avoiding eye contact is not a sign of guilt or deception.

The global view about liars is that they look away from you (avert their gaze) when they are lying. This is a false belief, which can be backed up with 40 years of research. What you will often find is that liar’s will often consciously engage in greater eye contact, because it is commonly (but mistakenly) believed that direct eye contact is a sign of truthfulness.

For these reasons, no relationship exists between eye gaze and deception.

Source: Guide To Detecting Deceit and Evaluating Honesty

People who do look away or avert their gaze when answering a question or when asked a question are just…thinking.

Source: Ask an Autistic #21 – What About Eye Contact? – YouTube